Pay Attention to What You Don’t Notice
When I was little, my grandmother used to make hot peanut butter cookies for me. I would sit on a…
Dealing with Addiction: Restoring Balance in the Family
Human homeostasis refers to the body’s ability to physically regulate its inner environment to ensure its balance in response to…
The Enormity of it All: Keeping Your Perspectives In Check
There could be more than 100 billion galaxies in the universe. Each galaxy can contain 100 billion stars or more.…
Toxic Help: Enabling Others to Live in a World That Doesn’t Exist
To enable is to make possible. Enabling occurs when we allow someone to do something. Sometimes we hear the word…
Shouting at the Water: Facing What You Can’t Ignore
Many years ago a very thirsty traveler stumbled upon a stream. After the traveler finished drinking, he shouted at the…
The Last Leaf: It’s Never Too Late to Turn It Around
Jeff likes to smoke marijuana. In fact, he told me that over the last 40 years, the only times he…
Digging Holes: Managing Other People’s Expectations
You’ve always known Pat to be a hole digger. Pat used to literally dig holes for himself, and then stand…
Stereotypes Are Natural
Evolutionary psychologists have argued that stereotypes were absolutely necessary for our survival. In other words, picture that it is 10,000…